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The Motivational You

Copyright (c) 2009 Willie Horton

How does one self-motivate? Are there two parts of us - one that is the motivator and the other which needs to be motivated? Why does research suggests that most so-called "normal" people do not achieve their goals, dreams and ambitions? Why do the majority of people continue to do work that they dislike? Why does the World Health Organization believe that stress will be such a big 21st. Century killer? If you're "normal" and you're worried and stressed, feeling unfulfilled at work, how can you actually motivate yourself? And what would you be motivating yourself for? Why bother?

Lots of questions - but they all boil down to the key issue of the extent to which we need to be motivated - and that most of us are not! Even many of my own clients, who should know better, who own their own businesses and whose future is so much more in their own hands than the normal employee, tell me that they're de-motivated, that they go into work knowing the key things that they have to do and yet they waste their time on doing things that they either shouldn't be doing, or things that are downright destructive (like worrying about where new business will come from, like getting involved in the downward spiral of gossip about the economic environment, like gossiping about their competitors) - things that lead them away from their hopes and dreams. As a result, they end up more de-motivated than ever.

But back to that one key issue - the need for self-motivation and, in particular, one of my very first questions above - who is doing the motivating and who needs to be motivated.

Everyone needs to get a kick out of life - if at all possible, every day. Years of psychological and market research that most people only rarely experience any high in their lives and that, generally, it is short lived. As a result, the majority of us, so-called normal people, trudge through our regular routines wishing for and hoping for our next high - whether that's looking forward to the weekend, the next night out or holiday. But in our ordinary everyday routine lives we are less than happy - less than fully motivated.

The truth is that there are two parts of us - our inner pure energy and our personality - and these two internal elements are locked in battle. As a result, we strive for, hope for, wish for a better life, more success and happiness, but we actually trip ourselves up in the pursuit of our hopes and dreams. It is our personality - the part of us with which we are all so familiar - that holds us back, that stops us being fully motivated, that disables our true inner abilities to achieve great things, to live our ordinary lives extraordinarily. As I said, we're all very familiar with our personality - our strengths, our faults and our failings.

However, when my clients explore their self-perceptions, many of them find that they can actually recollect the first time in their lives when they actually felt a particular - perhaps of inadequacy, self-doubt, anxiety, fear, even self-loathing. That is because our current self-perceptions that make up our personality are merely a compilation of the events that stand out in our subconscious mind from our formative years, our childhood. Many years work indicates that we perceive ourselves to be who we think we are based on a series of "snapshots" taken whilst we were young and impressionable. In addition, years of research indicates that normal people are pre-disposed to being negative - both about themselves and their chances of success.

Add all this together and you will realise that the perceived you - your personality - is a phantom-like creation of your subconscious mind. As it is created from events that most impressed you during your formative years, your personality simply could not be the real you. However, your personality feels very real - your self-doubts, your perceived inadequacies all manifest themselves in your daily life, in your behaviour and in what you get out of life. That is why you need to be motivated - and the bizarre thing is that the part of you that needs motivation (your personality) is the very same part of you that is preventing you being all that you can potentially be.

You need to stop pandering to your personality. Ignore it (it might eventually go away!). By-pass it by focussing your attention in the here and now. In doing so, your subconscious mind's obsession with your personality will begin to be broken. In focusing in the here and now, you will be less likely to waste your energy on the old, useless, self-defeating thoughts that regularly distract our minds from the task in hand, making the task in hand more difficult or frustrating. In paying attention to the present moment, in engrossing yourself in whatever you're doing, you will be better at it, more absorbed, more effective, efficient, more likely to get the key things done that will lead you towards living that ordinary everyday life - extra-ordinarily.

Recent research indicates that our ability to be happy and successful is correlated to our ability to pay attention to the here and now. It has nothing to do with self-motivation - because self-motivation involves pandering to a part of you that isn't really there, your personality. Get over yourself, get on with the present moment - your true ability to achieve your dreams and desires will then emerge - effortlessly.

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Entrepreneurship Is A “take” And “house” Psychological Battle

Entrepreneurship is a "take" and "care" of the psychological battle is a difficult decision on the future way of life! Believe the business friends, many are like me, always hovering between choice. Work, family, career, environment, self. This modern youth have to face the top-five choice factors.

Work. I believe many of my friends will have a job, or very satisfied or very satisfied, or indifferent. Satisfaction with workplace active, and earnest effort to obtain a satisfactory return, in order to seek development, it is a virtuous circle; unsatisfied with their work may have many complaints, so feel no future, no space, trying desperately to change the status quo , depression, this is a vicious circle; But whether satisfaction and dissatisfaction, but also required for the human temperament and strength, some people get 5-6 million a year to sit authorities, not satisfied; someone to do secretarial work, take 3-4 year, and satisfied.

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Entrepreneurship ? the Failure Myth

A life spent making mistakes is not only more honourable, but more useful, than a life spent doing nothing.
George Bernard Shaw

According to Global Entrepreneurial Monitor (GEM) fear of failure is the top reason given in Ireland and worldwide by aspiring entrepreneurs for not starting their own businesses.

NESTA – the National Endowment for Science, Technology and the Arts and the UK’s largest early stage investor in innovative and creative businesses – found that almost three quarters of people who said they had what they believed was a good business idea were not acting on it because they were afraid of not succeeding.

Ironically on further examination it is obvious that all would-be entrepreneurs are being paralysed by something that doesn’t exist.
That’s right. Failure is a myth!

You have already shown that in your own life, you certainly don’t need a motivational speaker to prove this!

Entrepreneurial Development – Failure Brings you Closer to Success!

Thomas Edison, inventor of the light bulb famously said “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

It took James Dyson, the engineer who reinvented the vacuum cleaner, four and a half years and 5,127 prototypes to refine his design.

“Each failure taught me so much,” he said. “Success teaches you nothing. Failures teach you everything. Making mistakes is the most important thing you can do.”

In an interview with Time Magazine, Larry Page, inventor of Google, said, “Invariably we try ten things that don’t quite work out in order to do one thing that is successful. And we learn a lot in doing the ten things that didn’t quite work.”

Thus every failure brings you a step closer to success and moves you further down the path of entrepreneurship.

Ironically by embracing this truism you mastered your first two major challenges in life – walking and talking.

Remember: As a child, ‘Never say die’, ‘Have no fear’, ‘Try and try again’, ‘Enjoy the moment’, were your working metaphors.

You fixed your eye on the goal, took your first step – wobbled a bit – steadied yourself. Then another step. Then landed on your backside!

What happens then? Did you give up? Did you say to yourself ‘I tried my best and I can’t do it. It hurts. I’m never doing that again!’? Did your ego kick in and start whispering ‘you’re making a fool of yourself. They’re all laughing at you! Better quit while you are ahead.’?

No indeed, as each one of us is born with an innate desire to reach our full potential, you got up and tried again ultimately succeeding.

Model off past childlike strategies in the future and master the art of entrepreneurship!

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If You Want Security, Choose Entrepreneurship

Prosperity and happiness would be easy to achieve if we could make correct decisions all day long. Imagine how efficient we would become if we never succumbed to seductive lies. How far could we go if we never got distracted by irrelevancies? How much would we profit if we never wasted time chasing what cannot be accomplished?

An exalted view of permanence and safety can be a constant source of erroneous choices. Human beings seem to suffer from a persistent cognitive distortion that makes them favour all things that are tall, wide, and long. If you think about it, you will find few exceptions to this misconception.

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